What to do when you don’t know what to do A number of times in my life, I’ve struggled with making a decision. I have felt like I lacked clarity and the certainty necessary to decide what to do. Such moments can often cause problems. The issue of being trapped in uncertainty and inaction can lead to its own set…
How to believe in yourself I have met so many people over the years who experience what is known as the ‘Imposter Syndrome’. They somehow feel that they are not good enough to be where they are in their lives. Others wish that they were in a much better position in their life but cannot even imagine it is possible….
Inner Voice Meta-Mantra Video Series – No 1 Welcome to my new Inner Voice Meta-Mantra series!! Over the next few weeks I will release a number of short and hopefully helpful videos with a number of mantras which you can repeat when you are dealing with negative thoughts. Here is the first inner voice meta-mantra. Watch & practice.. Warning, the videos in this…
Strategies to help defeat depression It is a simple choice to end your life. There have been moments in my past where I’ve considered it. It tempted me. Just one decision and you’re there. You’re done. No more pain. I’ve thought about it long and hard. I’ve been so close to doing it. But something stopped me. What stopped me…
How to say goodbye One of the basic concepts in Buddhism is the four noble truths. Life is suffering. There is a cause to this suffering. There is an end to this suffering. The end comes through the eight-fold noble path. The ‘suffering’ comes from the process of attachment. Or, as said beautifully in the amazing film ‘Heat’ “Never get…
CONOR MCGREGOR STILL WON Conor McGregor won last Saturday night. I am not talking about the fight nor the money he made from the fight. I am not talking about winning over fans or winning respect from the boxing world. I am not talking about putting himself in the position of being one of the most recognisable sport brands in…
How to be enough Since I was young, I can remember being rejected thousands of times. Romantically, in friendship, business wise and creatively. Most of these times I have been the rejector and rejectee. I have rejected myself far more than others. So much so, when I was a teenager, I never asked a girl out or had the balls…
Why do we need self-improvement anyway? A few days ago, I had a long, deep chat with someone close to me who asked: ‘Why do we need all of these ‘methods’ to ‘change your life’ or ‘improve’? At a very basic level, the idea went, that ultimately the answers are within us all and we just need to listen to…
The Truth about being Nice A few months ago, my friend from the States visited me in Dublin. We spent quite a bit of time driving around the country. During these road trips, we began talking about confidence, assertiveness, being nice, nice guys and girls and bad guys and girls. As we talked, the conversation turned to me and her thoughts on…
As I spend time writing in New York, a few things have become quite apparent to me. I’ve spent some time over the last few months with a variety of friends. The first thing is how lucky I am with the friends I have. The second is the amount of ‘feedback’ that I tend to get from many of them….