How to handle rumination Recently, I was asked to talk about how to handle rumination. Rumination is the process whereby we think about something that makes us feel bad continuously. We go over and over it inside our head and continue to generate the negative feelings. But what is the difference between worry and rumination? How do we need to…
Healing the relationship you have with yourself John Gottman is a relationship researcher who has compiled a massive amount of fascinating research into what keeps couples together and what results in happy relationships. When considering Gottman’s work, one of the things that struck me was how relevant his work is to the relationships that we have with ourselves. If there…
How to become a master at excuse making In my new Sarcastic Series video, I share six tips to help you become a master at excuse making. This will help you be lazier and become a total loser. Just what you need:-) Check out the video category in my blog for more great videos…… If you liked this and would like…
A three step strategy for handling anxiety In the modern world, there are two primary suggestions out there for handling negative thinking and negative emotions. One is the idea that you can change, reprogramme or alter your thinking. Such approaches include CBT, NLP, DBT etc. The other is the idea that you can quieten your thinking. Such approaches to this…
Three big reasons that people do not change Having worked with so many people for more than twenty years in helping them make changes in their lives, it occurred to me that there are patterns involved in preventing people from making changes. One of the biggest and most problematic patterns I have found is what I call the ‘excuse protection…
KEYS TO DEALING WITH PROCRASTINATION A mentor of mine, Dr Richard Bandler, once said that “He who hesitates, waits and waits and waits”. Unfortunately, most of us are guilty of hesitating from time to time. Why do we do so? Furthermore, what can we do to overcome this and take action. This is the subject of this week’s post. …
HOW TO TURN JANUARY AROUND I get it. A few days into January and maybe you have already fallen off the wagon. Maybe your best laid plans have already been laid to rest. Or maybe you are hanging on but struggling as the ‘most depressing day of the year’ strikes. January can be a pain in the arse for many…
When I first flew business class, I knew I was screwed. From then on, I was certain that economy class would be so much worse. The law of contrast is one of the most powerful laws in psychology. We determine how good something is based upon comparing it with something else. When you experience luxury, it is so hard to…
How to transform yourself and others with stories The last few days I have been feeling very sick in bed and it gave me a forced chance to pause. Unfortunately, one of the places I went while experiencing this was online and it was there that I came upon the kind of thing that makes me want to scream. I…
F**K BULLIES: 7 tips to help you respond Recently, I have seen a few articles on bullying online and offline and I felt I needed to say something to everyone out there in school and, even in work, who is the victim of bullying. I’ve put it into a seven-point format. Hope that makes sense and excuse the language. 1….
