How to handle rumination

How to handle rumination
Reading time: 4 minutes Feb 19th 2018

How to handle rumination Recently, I was asked to talk about how to handle rumination. Rumination is the process whereby we think about something that makes us feel bad continuously. We go over and over it inside our head and continue to generate the negative feelings. But what is the difference between worry and rumination? How do we need to…

Healing the relationship you have with yourself

Healing the relationship you have with yourself
Reading time: 4 minutes Feb 5th 2018

Healing the relationship you have with yourself John Gottman is a relationship researcher who has compiled a massive amount of fascinating research into what keeps couples together and what results in happy relationships. When considering Gottman’s work, one of the things that struck me was how relevant his work is to the relationships that we have with ourselves. If there…

A three step strategy for handling anxiety

A three step strategy for handling anxiety
Reading time: 4 minutes Jan 29th 2018

A three step strategy for handling anxiety In the modern world, there are two primary suggestions out there for handling negative thinking and negative emotions. One is the idea that you can change, reprogramme or alter your thinking. Such approaches include CBT, NLP, DBT etc. The other is the idea that you can quieten your thinking. Such approaches to this…

Three big reasons that people do not change

Three big reasons that people do not change
Reading time: 4 minutes Jan 22nd 2018

Three big reasons that people do not change Having worked with so many people for more than twenty years in helping them make changes in their lives, it occurred to me that there are patterns involved in preventing people from making changes. One of the biggest and most problematic patterns I have found is what I call the ‘excuse protection…

KEYS TO DEALING WITH PROCRASTINATION

KEYS TO DEALING WITH PROCRASTINATION
Reading time: 6 minutes Jan 15th 2018

KEYS TO DEALING WITH PROCRASTINATION A mentor of mine, Dr Richard Bandler, once said that “He who hesitates, waits and waits and waits”. Unfortunately, most of us are guilty of hesitating from time to time. Why do we do so? Furthermore, what can we do to overcome this and take action. This is the subject of this week’s post.  …

How to turn January around

How to turn January around
Reading time: 5 minutes Dec 18th 2017

HOW TO TURN JANUARY AROUND I get it. A few days into January and maybe you have already fallen off the wagon. Maybe your best laid plans have already been laid to rest. Or maybe you are hanging on but struggling as the ‘most depressing day of the year’ strikes. January can be a pain in the arse for many…

How to transform yourself and others with stories

How to transform yourself and others with stories
Reading time: 6 minutes Dec 11th 2017

How to transform yourself and others with stories The last few days I have been feeling very sick in bed and it gave me a forced chance to pause. Unfortunately, one of the places I went while experiencing this was online and it was there that I came upon the kind of thing that makes me want to scream. I…

F**K BULLIES: 7 tips to help you respond

F**K BULLIES: 7 tips to help you respond
Reading time: 4 minutes Dec 11th 2017

F**K BULLIES: 7 tips to help you respond Recently, I have seen a few articles on bullying online and offline and I felt I needed to say something to everyone out there in school and, even in work, who is the victim of bullying. I’ve put it into a seven-point format. Hope that makes sense and excuse the language. 1….

Finding a strategy to motivate you

Finding a strategy to motivate you
Reading time: 5 minutes Nov 27th 2017

Finding a strategy to motivate you Recently, I was teaching a seminar on business skills and I was asked a question that I have been asked many times before. How do I motivate myself? The answer to such a question is not formulaic. In truth, different people have different strategies that work for them. The key is to find what…

Handling verbally abusive people

Handling verbally abusive people
Reading time: 4 minutes Nov 20th 2017

Handling verbally abusive people On Facebook, I was recently asked the question how to deal with verbally abusive people. To me, there are a number of strategies which can help you. Problems do not wait for you to be ready for them. They happen when they happen. The same is true of people. Most people do not check in with…