The true power of honesty

The true power of honesty
Reading time: 6 minutes Mar 19th 2018

The true power of honesty My job involves helping people to communicate more effectively with themselves and with others. In organisations this has a powerful impact on their ability to perform as they want to as well as communicate the messages they want to in the most effective way. One of the biggest challenges I have found that people have,…

Let’s talk about white privilege

Let’s talk about white privilege
Reading time: 10 minutes Mar 5th 2018

Let’s talk about white privilege Normally, I avoid any divisive topic like the plague. But occasionally, I have something to say that I’m hoping will somehow make some sort of difference. I understand that as soon as someone chimes in on areas like this, instantly there is plenty of emotion filled responses to it. I also understand that I am…

How to increase your energy levels

How to increase your energy levels
Reading time: 4 minutes Feb 26th 2018

How to increase your energy levels I am frequently asked by various people how I manage to do so much and how I almost always seem full of energy. Of course, there are plenty of people out there who have more hectic lives than me and somehow balance their careers with a busy family life. I’m very aware of that….

How to handle rumination

How to handle rumination
Reading time: 4 minutes Feb 19th 2018

How to handle rumination Recently, I was asked to talk about how to handle rumination. Rumination is the process whereby we think about something that makes us feel bad continuously. We go over and over it inside our head and continue to generate the negative feelings. But what is the difference between worry and rumination? How do we need to…

Healing the relationship you have with yourself

Healing the relationship you have with yourself
Reading time: 4 minutes Feb 5th 2018

Healing the relationship you have with yourself John Gottman is a relationship researcher who has compiled a massive amount of fascinating research into what keeps couples together and what results in happy relationships. When considering Gottman’s work, one of the things that struck me was how relevant his work is to the relationships that we have with ourselves. If there…

A three step strategy for handling anxiety

A three step strategy for handling anxiety
Reading time: 4 minutes Jan 29th 2018

A three step strategy for handling anxiety In the modern world, there are two primary suggestions out there for handling negative thinking and negative emotions. One is the idea that you can change, reprogramme or alter your thinking. Such approaches include CBT, NLP, DBT etc. The other is the idea that you can quieten your thinking. Such approaches to this…

Three big reasons that people do not change

Three big reasons that people do not change
Reading time: 4 minutes Jan 22nd 2018

Three big reasons that people do not change Having worked with so many people for more than twenty years in helping them make changes in their lives, it occurred to me that there are patterns involved in preventing people from making changes. One of the biggest and most problematic patterns I have found is what I call the ‘excuse protection…

KEYS TO DEALING WITH PROCRASTINATION

KEYS TO DEALING WITH PROCRASTINATION
Reading time: 6 minutes Jan 15th 2018

KEYS TO DEALING WITH PROCRASTINATION A mentor of mine, Dr Richard Bandler, once said that “He who hesitates, waits and waits and waits”. Unfortunately, most of us are guilty of hesitating from time to time. Why do we do so? Furthermore, what can we do to overcome this and take action. This is the subject of this week’s post.  …

How to turn January around

How to turn January around
Reading time: 5 minutes Dec 18th 2017

HOW TO TURN JANUARY AROUND I get it. A few days into January and maybe you have already fallen off the wagon. Maybe your best laid plans have already been laid to rest. Or maybe you are hanging on but struggling as the ‘most depressing day of the year’ strikes. January can be a pain in the arse for many…

How to transform yourself and others with stories

How to transform yourself and others with stories
Reading time: 6 minutes Dec 11th 2017

How to transform yourself and others with stories The last few days I have been feeling very sick in bed and it gave me a forced chance to pause. Unfortunately, one of the places I went while experiencing this was online and it was there that I came upon the kind of thing that makes me want to scream. I…