What to remember when tough times come

What to remember when tough times come
Reading time: 3 minutes Apr 17th 2018

What to remember when tough times come Life has an incredible ability to turn around within a matter of days. One day the problems you have might be imaginary problems with how you are thinking and feeling, the next day you find yourself facing a real life issue. Tragedies, grief, heartbreak, pain, illness and suffering are all experiences we will…

THE POWER OF A NEW POINT OF VIEW

THE POWER OF A NEW POINT OF VIEW
Reading time: 4 minutes Apr 9th 2018

THE POWER OF A NEW POINT OF VIEW: How to become a lot more relaxed about life Many years ago, I remember a terrific book that came out called ‘Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff’. It became a bestseller and is still to be found in many bookshops I have been in. What made me most interested in this book was…

The wisdom of Mr. Miyagi

The wisdom of Mr. Miyagi
Reading time: 3 minutes Mar 26th 2018

The wisdom of Mr. Miyagi Recently, The Karate Kid came on the TV. A story about a teenager who is bullied and learns karate from a wise old Japanese man called Mr. Miyagi is the ultimate hero’s journey. Terms like ‘wax on, wax off’ became memes years ago as it became one of the classic fun movies most people had…

The true power of honesty

The true power of honesty
Reading time: 6 minutes Mar 19th 2018

The true power of honesty My job involves helping people to communicate more effectively with themselves and with others. In organisations this has a powerful impact on their ability to perform as they want to as well as communicate the messages they want to in the most effective way. One of the biggest challenges I have found that people have,…

Let’s talk about white privilege

Let’s talk about white privilege
Reading time: 10 minutes Mar 5th 2018

Let’s talk about white privilege Normally, I avoid any divisive topic like the plague. But occasionally, I have something to say that I’m hoping will somehow make some sort of difference. I understand that as soon as someone chimes in on areas like this, instantly there is plenty of emotion filled responses to it. I also understand that I am…

How to increase your energy levels

How to increase your energy levels
Reading time: 4 minutes Feb 26th 2018

How to increase your energy levels I am frequently asked by various people how I manage to do so much and how I almost always seem full of energy. Of course, there are plenty of people out there who have more hectic lives than me and somehow balance their careers with a busy family life. I’m very aware of that….

How to handle rumination

How to handle rumination
Reading time: 4 minutes Feb 19th 2018

How to handle rumination Recently, I was asked to talk about how to handle rumination. Rumination is the process whereby we think about something that makes us feel bad continuously. We go over and over it inside our head and continue to generate the negative feelings. But what is the difference between worry and rumination? How do we need to…

Healing the relationship you have with yourself

Healing the relationship you have with yourself
Reading time: 4 minutes Feb 5th 2018

Healing the relationship you have with yourself John Gottman is a relationship researcher who has compiled a massive amount of fascinating research into what keeps couples together and what results in happy relationships. When considering Gottman’s work, one of the things that struck me was how relevant his work is to the relationships that we have with ourselves. If there…

A three step strategy for handling anxiety

A three step strategy for handling anxiety
Reading time: 4 minutes Jan 29th 2018

A three step strategy for handling anxiety In the modern world, there are two primary suggestions out there for handling negative thinking and negative emotions. One is the idea that you can change, reprogramme or alter your thinking. Such approaches include CBT, NLP, DBT etc. The other is the idea that you can quieten your thinking. Such approaches to this…

Three big reasons that people do not change

Three big reasons that people do not change
Reading time: 4 minutes Jan 22nd 2018

Three big reasons that people do not change Having worked with so many people for more than twenty years in helping them make changes in their lives, it occurred to me that there are patterns involved in preventing people from making changes. One of the biggest and most problematic patterns I have found is what I call the ‘excuse protection…