Why do we need self-improvement anyway?

Why do we need self-improvement anyway?
Reading time: 8 minutes Aug 14th 2017

Why do we need self-improvement anyway? A few days ago, I had a long, deep chat with someone close to me who asked: ‘Why do we need all of these ‘methods’ to ‘change your life’ or ‘improve’? At a very basic level, the idea went, that ultimately the answers are within us all and we just need to listen to…

The Truth about being Nice

The Truth about being Nice
Reading time: 7 minutes Aug 7th 2017

The Truth about being Nice A few months ago, my friend from the States visited me in Dublin. We spent quite a bit of time driving around the country. During these road trips, we began talking about confidence, assertiveness, being nice, nice guys and girls and bad guys and girls. As we talked, the conversation turned to me and her thoughts on…

The key to taking feedback

The key to taking feedback
Reading time: 7 minutes Jul 31st 2017

As I spend time writing in New York, a few things have become quite apparent to me. I’ve spent some time over the last few months with a variety of friends. The first thing is how lucky I am with the friends I have. The second is the amount of ‘feedback’ that I tend to get from many of them….

5 Essential Ingredients to Change Anything

5 Essential Ingredients to Change Anything
Reading time: 6 minutes Jul 24th 2017

I started working with people and their problems in the mid 1990’s. I was still a teenager then but had studied therapy very early in my career. I worked with all kinds of issues from helping them to change habits to change feelings. Some were serious, others less so. I found that the degree to which I was successful was…

Two critical qualities to get you through the toughest times

Two critical qualities to get you through the toughest times
Reading time: 3 minutes Jun 19th 2017

Two critical qualities to get you through the toughest times Over the last couple of years, there has been much more coverage on the issue of mental illness. Finally, a number of celebrities and public figures have come out and told the world of their inner struggle. The message is clear: when you are going through the darkest times, share…

The key to handling disappointment more effectively

The key to handling disappointment more effectively
Reading time: 3 minutes Jun 11th 2017

The key to handling disappointment more effectively A mentor of mine, Dr Richard Bandler often explains that “disappointment requires adequate planning”. When dealing with situations that don’t go as we hope they will or that do go in a way that we hope they don’t, it is easy to feel bad as a result. How long that lasts and how…

The Key to Mental Discipline

The Key to Mental Discipline
Reading time: 3 minutes Jun 5th 2017

The Key to Mental Discipline One of the biggest factors that will determine how successful you are is the discipline with which you take charge of your mind. Many people attend courses and read books about what they need to do in order to become happier, more relaxed or more confident. It is one thing learning the steps you need…

The Paradoxical World of Self-Improvement

The Paradoxical World of Self-Improvement
Reading time: 5 minutes May 30th 2017

The Paradoxical World of Self-Improvement Some advice you’ve heard is probably ‘be confident’. Other times you’re told ‘be humble’. You’re told to ‘trust your intuition’ and ‘go with the facts’. You’re told to ‘engage your followers every day’ and ‘be mysterious and use the principle of scarcity’. We are given tons of nuggets of wisdom like these all the time…

The Key to Managing Empathy

The Key to Managing Empathy
Reading time: 3 minutes May 22nd 2017

The Key to Managing Empathy One of the latest psychological terms that is gaining popularity is a personality trend labelled as an ‘empath’. An ‘empath’ is someone who is extremely sensitive to other people’s emotions and feelings. Some people tend to be extremely empathetic and others are not. Those who are tend to have certain advantages and certain disadvantages. In…

The most important secret to first impressions

The most important secret to first impressions
Reading time: 3 minutes May 15th 2017

My job involves interacting with thousands of people every year. Whether it is at a workshop or a conference which I am giving or attending, I am introduced to many different types of people in many different countries in a variety of different contexts. In terms of first impressions, one important quality which stands out for me instantly and determines…

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